There is so much that you, as the bride, has to coordinate, design, schedule and remember, it can make your head spin! I thought it would be helpful to compile a series of blog posts filled with all kinds of tips and tricks. If you need to catch up, here is the link to my first two "Tips for Brides":
One of the most important, yet least open subject to discuss is BUDGET. It's almost a bad word... should we just refer to it as the "B-word" from now on? So why is the B-word such a horrible thing to discuss? Without it, things could get out of hand very quickly. I know, I have been there. You go to visit your reception venue, which you have already booked, you see another wedding being set-up and suddenly, those green banquet chairs look so dated. There is no way this will do! The only way to solve this fashion nightmare is with two words: "chair covers". Ah, I can almost feel a sense of calm wash over me. That will only be $3.50.... a chair, multiplied by 200 = oops, $700 over bud.... B-word. See? Without that agreed upon B-word, there could be a lot more of this to wreck havoc on your bank account or... gasp... your honeymoon plans!
Tip 3 - Have a Budget. Be formal about it. Before a single thing is ordered or a vendor meeting is booked, sit down with whom ever is funding your big day and hash it out. Whether this is your parents, your future in-laws, just you and your groom or all of the above. Make sure everyone is present, and well fed (food makes everyone happy!) and have a mature conversation about what a realistic B-word looks like for everyone involved.
"Without that agreed upon B-word, spending can wreck havoc on your bank account or... gasp... your honeymoon plans!"
Here are some tricks on making this process as smooth as possible:
1. Be respectful, always. Money can be a very touchy subject and everyone has their own spending threshold.
2. Make a list of the things that are the most important to you and your groom. Some of the things I wasn't willing to go cheap on were photography, our cake and the DJ. My husband wanted as many friends and family there as would accept, so those became our big-ticket items. The other things we was willing to scale down to fit our budget.
3. Pick your battles. You may really want beautiful bouquets for each of your bridesmaid dripping with hydrangeas and pearls down to their knees, but it would mean the world to your groom to book this amazing band that he has been following for the last 5 years. Surely the smile on his face and the amazing time you two will have at your reception, will be a better use of your money than giant bouquets that your bridesmaids have to lug around all day.
All that said, there is one vital piece of the puzzle that will keep everyone at peace (for the most part) - Tip 3.1 - STICK TO THE BUDGET! Believe me, you will be so happy you did, especially when you are relaxing on the beach in Cancun together, holding hands and sipping margaritas....not sitting at your kitchen table arguing about how you are going to pay off all these bills. That is SO not how you want to start off your new life together!
"Stick to the budget."
I hope this helps you keep your wedding planning on track. Stay tuned for more tips and tricks in the coming weeks.