There is so much that you, as the bride, has to coordinate, design, schedule and remember, it can make your head spin! I thought it would be helpful to compile a series of blog posts filled with all kinds of tips and tricks. If you need to catch up, here is the link to my other "Tips for Brides":
Have you ever given a really special gift to someone? Maybe it was a really creative, well thought-out package or an expensive something that you knew they would just love. Maybe you sent a gift to a friend that lives on the other side of the Country. No matter what the situation, I'll bet you enjoyed giving that gift.
A Christmastime, I always look forward to watching someone open a gift from me. It just feels so good to give. However, you can't give without receiving nor receive without giving, so it is always crucial that I know the receiver of my gift is happy. For instance, wouldn't you just feel rotten if you gave a gift you put a lot of thought and time into, just to see the receiver toss it into a pile, never to be mentioned again? It's nice to receive some feedback or appreciation for your generosity.
Tip 5 - Write Thank you notes. To everyone. I know - after your bridal shower(s) you get swept up in the remainder of the wedding planning and time just slips away. Or, post wedding you are just trying to unwind with your new hubby and thank you notes are the furthest thing from your thoughts. It can be overwhelming, especially if you had a large wedding.
"...two minutes of your time, a Thank You card and $0.49 for a stamp, I definitely think you got the better end of the deal."
Before you get carried away with life, think about all the people that attended your wedding. I bet many of them had to hire a babysitter, travel at least 30 minutes, maybe buy a new dress or suit to wear to your nuptials, they danced, laughed, cried and witnessed one of the most important days of your life and on top of all that, they brought a gift. That's pretty special. A few, personal words of thanks would be greatly appreciated and that will only cost you, two minutes of your time, a Thank You card and $0.49 for a stamp (I definitely think you got the better end of the deal).
A few tricks I used when writing my Thank you notes after our wedding was: 1. Don't procrastinate. It only makes it more painful. 2. Sit down with your hubby, grab a glass of wine, throw in a good movie and start writing. 3. To break up the chore and to keep the thank you notes fresh (I am always worried people will compare notes - a bit paranoid, I admit), plan to do five at a time and don't break until all five are complete. Take 10 minutes to regroup and then write five more. 4. Try to remember one personal detail you can include in each note. It doesn't have to be something big, it could be a short line saying, "Thank you for the champagne flutes they are beautiful. We will use them to toast to your safe travels as you tour Europe next month. It was great seeing you at our wedding. We hope you had an amazing time! Love, Lisa & John" Surprisingly, I received many complements on how personal my thank you notes were and how quickly they received them.
In the end, don't sweat it. My parents always told me, when I was growing up, you may not remember what was written inside every thank you note, but you will always remember if you didn't receive one, and I have definitely found this to be true.
So, whether you are in the midst of writing thank you notes or haven't even started, I hope tip 5 along with these tricks, help to lessen the load or at least make it more bearable.
We had about 260 people at our wedding, so I figure that was roughly 130 notes I wrote (give or take). How many are you at, or anticipating?