There is so much that you, as the bride, has to coordinate, design, schedule and remember, it can make your head spin! I thought it would be helpful to compile a series of blogs filled with all kinds of tips and tricks. If you need to catch up, here is the link to my first "Tips for Brides":
I love to dance. My husband does not. My college friends taught me how to dance at the local bars, but not exactly the style of dancing you would want to use for your first dance as husband and wife. My husband never learned to dance, instead he played computer games with his college roommates, in their dorm room, every night of the week. We are complete opposites, but that's for another blog post.
I thought it would be really fun to take ballroom dancing lessons together so we could totally knock the socks off our guest at our wedding. My husband did not. However, he is an amazing man and loves to make me happy, so he reluctantly agreed to it. I also may or may not have suggested that the class would only be a few sessions with other couples, but we actually took private dance lessons.
Our instructor suggested that we wear our wedding shoes to class, so that we would feel comfortable dancing in them during our actual first dance. I found this to be one of the best tips I received when planning my own wedding, so I am passing it on to you. Tip 2.1 - break in your wedding shoes well before your wedding day. Trust me, you will thank me when you are going on 5+ hours of standing and walking in those gorgeous shoes you just had to have! By the time our wedding day was here, my shoes felt like a pair of warm, gently loved slippers (OK, maybe not that good, because, well, they were heels, but you get the point). I could almost hear my feet thanking me once the dancing started.
Our dance instructor was amazing. She choreographed a beautiful dance to our song, Into The Mystic by Van Morrison. We practiced and practiced and I was ready to nail it. When the moment came to dance our hearts out, my husband chickened out and wouldn't do it. Stage fright. We did the standard slow dance, holding each other and swaying to the music, which was still sweet and special. Some brides might have been mad, but I just chalked it up to a lesson learned. Tip 2.2 - take dance lessons (if needed). Tip 2.3 - don't make your husband-to-be do something he is not comfortable with just because you think it is an amazing idea.
In hindsight, maybe I shouldn't have suggested dance lessons, but it was a great bonding experience and something we will always remember. To this day, he still lovingly teases me about how I made him take dance lessons. Us wives have to give our men something - we can't be perfect all of the time!
I hope this multi-point tip helps you on your wedding day. Stay tuned for more tips in the coming weeks.